Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Today would have been my 31st Wedding Anniversay....that is if I had lived that long married to the man. Thankfully, I only spent 14 years in hell, and many more recovering with surgeries and therapy. I am stronger now and feel it is time to again pick up this sword for women of my state and women across the United States. It is important to me to teach other women in the State of Colorado about my case.
Mine was believed to be the first because of the changes made to the Sexual Assault statues in Colorado in the late 80's, which do not allow marital status to be a defense for this most horrible crime. I am no longer a victim, but a survivor of marital sexual assault. My children are all doing well. We have survived both the abuse and then the system which we had to avail to emancipate ourselves from the situation.
If you are a victim or survivor of marital sexual assault, contact a Victim Advocate who deals specifically in sexual assault. I found since I was primarily a sexual assault victim, battered womens shelters did not have the training to assist me.
In Denver, contact the Rape Assistance and Awarness Program at 303-322-7273. Se Habla Espanol tambien. They have a 24 hour hotline.
Call your local police department. Ask for a female officer if you prefer, but make the call. The life you save may be your own and your family's. I could run a ton of statistics at you, but that isn't what you need. You need to know you are still in danger and must get help. Whether you decide to prosecute or not. Your safety and the safety of any children you have are your primary concern.
For reference the Sexual Assault Code is found in CRS 18-3-402(1) and my case number is 92CR1178. However you will not be able to view this case unless you are an officer of the court for reasons of privacy which are the law in Colorado.
My Best to each of you who read this and find the path I did. I would not have suceeded if it weren't for the dedicated Victim Advocates at the Distric Attorney's Office, and the Larimer County Sexual Assault Victim Advocate program. Also the civil attorney's who took up this terrible sword and literally saved my life. To each of them I again after all these years say a heartfelt thank you.
Rape In Marriage
Dear Heavenly Father hear my cries,
My fragile spirit suffers and dies.
From a secret I carry in shame,
Of life so filled with torture and pain.
Through blood and tears the violence tells,
Of fear so great that terror swells
For one who shared the marrieage vows,
Does forcefully take what nature allows.
This once holy union created for sharing in life,
Has turned to anger spent on me his wife.
Through tears I beg, In fear I plead
With cruelty he answers, mopping up his need.
So please dear Lord give me the courage
To heal and grow, break free this bondage.
As I ask only for dignity and respect
And gentle love given in mutual consent.
© 1992, 1993, 1995, 2001, 2006 Christine McClintock DeLay
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Today was my birthday. I turned 49 at 3:16 p.m. Mountain Time. I was born here in Colorado. I didn't have plans for my birthday because tomorrow is a very busy day tomorrow. On the 17th, I am to portray one of my favorite people in history, a woman I very much admire. Abigail Adams for a local elementary school. It means a lot to me to portray her as ironically, I am a Jefferson. Yes, as in Thomas Jefferson.
But that is not what today is all about. In fact today is not about me or my birthday at all. But without a doubt, I can say. Today was the best birthday I have ever had. Today for my birthday I served a beautiful woman who survived Katrina, lost 16 members of her family. She even buried her children after Katrina. This beautiful woman now has 3rd stage breast cancer as well as diabetes and heart problems. She is so very sick and was about to lose her apartment, her car, her utilities were being shut off. This while working fulltime and even going to school. She is truly an amazing woman.
We met 3 weeks ago when she saw me cutting out my colonial dress at our clubhouse for tomorrows program. You see, she used to have a sewing business in Louisiana and knew in an instant what I was making. We laughed and talked, and I told her then to call me if she ever needed help.
She made that call this morning. Today, I took her to the Parker Task Force for assistance. I do not have a magic checkbook. I cannot pay her bills. But I have learned over the years since my divorce how to survive. I am like Abigail Adams, an advocate for women. By the way Abigail's daughter died of breast cancer.
When we got through, all of her bills are paid in full. Her utilities are on. She has food and will not lose her apartment. She has her medication. It has been paid for. They even gave her a blanket made especially for breast cancer patients.
One of the amazing angels at the Parker Task Force. She really was on the phone with two agencies.
TODAY was simply the very BEST BIRTHDAY I have ever had, because I spent it in service of another human. "Playing it forward, and being the change you want to see in the world", are not just slogans for me. I live by them....."for whom much has been given, much is also expected."
Today, I turned 49 and it was my turn to give.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
She will be interviewed by Presenter, Denise Plante, as one of the guests regarding the DAR, Constitution Week and the DAR luncheon taking place that same day at 11:30 a.m. at the Denver Country Club featuring Judge, Colorado Court of Appeals, Stephen Carparelli.
Colorado & Company or "COCO" is a magazine-style show that airs live on Channel 9, KUSA-TV from 10-11am on weekdays. Some segments are commercially sponsored while others feature local community organizations, and entertainers, chefs, community leaders and perhaps even your neighbor!
Colorado & Company is the place to learn about our state's best companies, the services and products they offer and the people behind them. You'll see a variety of people who have made Colorado the best place to live in the country.
Presenter: Denise Plante is also the co-host of the KOSI 101.1 morning show. She's been in radio for 18 yrs, 11 of those years right here in Denver. Denise has won several radio awards and has been nominated for three Emmy awards, winning one in 2005 for Interviewer/Host. She has been the host for several national television commercial spots and two MTV projects. Denise was also the first Female in the nation in radio to use the Heil Pink Microphone during her show and on location, it benefits breast cancer through Susan G. Komen.
This Daughter of Piney Creek Chapter N.S.D.R, congratulates our State Regent, and joins her effort to promote the activities of the DAR to the citizens of Colorado.